Veteran's Day Suggestions

I was taken last week by the overwhelming respect and gratitude shown by the Dana Hills High School's student body, and especially by the athletes and their genuine sincerity for the evening. I was one of 73 nominated veterans for the Honor the Valor ceremonies. It included a pre-game dinner sponsored by Chick-fil-A, a pre-game band honoring the veterans, a half time show that was themed patriotic, and following the game - a jersey presentation by a player who wore our name on that jersey during the game. My player was Tommy Bortnick.

Some suggestions I read some years ago have justifiable meaning regarding a veteran you may encounter. It goes something like this .... and it's the way most of us feel deeply about.

• Please don't ask us if we killed anyone in combat, or even be snide about it. It's difficult enough speaking to our spouses and family members, let alone strangers.
• Thanking us for our service is greatly appreciated.
• Please don't get into political opinions regarding our service. In our minds eye, it cheapens the meaning of a best friend who died protecting those same opinions. Sometimes it's just a good idea to keep your opinions to yourself. We are simply proud to have served.
• Far too many of us have PTSD. Should you witness us acting anxious or moving away from crowds, turning our backs to the walls, or even fidgeting, simple kindness and understanding would be most appreciated. We often need breathing room with conversations about something interesting.
• As with many of us who has a disability, please do not stare. Veterans can be sensitive about scars or injuries, and really don't wish to rewind the experience by questions asked. And remember, many of the injuries are not visible, thus be sensitive enough NOT to challenge it.

Many of us with disabilities appreciate light conversation and assistance if we look like we are in need. As for myself ... I'm damn proud to have served!

"To be a veteran one must know and determine one's price for freedom."